The Wounds Religion Leaves on the Body, the Mind, and the Self
Sam Sellers Sam Sellers

The Wounds Religion Leaves on the Body, the Mind, and the Self

This blog explains that religious trauma is not primarily a psychological phenomenon but one that moves through the whole person; the nervous system and body, the relational self, the identity, and the sexual self. It maps three interconnected dimensions of harm that standard trauma frameworks often miss. Partial frameworks produce partial support, and that recovery requires an approach as wide as the wound. Practical takeaways are offered for both survivors and practitioners.

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Who You Are Isn't Up for Debate: Identity, Gender, Sexuality, and Religious Trauma
Elise Heerde Elise Heerde

Who You Are Isn't Up for Debate: Identity, Gender, Sexuality, and Religious Trauma

Religious indoctrination doesn't just teach doctrine. It colonises identity, gender, and sexuality, teaching survivors that who they are is fundamentally wrong. For gender diverse and LGBTQIA+ people raised in high-control religion, reclaiming identity means unlearning years of shame, control, and fear. This isn't about finding new rules. It's about learning to trust yourself as the authority on your own life. You're not broken. You were just taught to see yourself that way.

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“No, You Weren’t Just Brainwashed”: Dismantling the Myths That Keep Religious Trauma Survivors from Being Believed
Sam Sellers Sam Sellers

“No, You Weren’t Just Brainwashed”: Dismantling the Myths That Keep Religious Trauma Survivors from Being Believed

This blog takes on three of the most pervasive myths applied to religious trauma survivors: that they were simply brainwashed, that they could have just left, and that their anger makes their account less credible. It unpacks the sophisticated systems of influence that make these myths not just unhelpful but actively harmful. It offers practical reframes for survivors who have internalised these narratives, and challenges practitioners to examine the assumptions they bring into the room.

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When Emotions Were Weaponised
Elise Heerde Elise Heerde

When Emotions Were Weaponised

In high-control religious environments, emotion is rarely neutral. Feelings are shaped, suppressed, amplified, and moralised in ways that influence belief, behaviour, and belonging. Understanding emotional manipulation doesn’t invalidate your experiences, it replaces shame with context and helps you reclaim trust in your own internal world.

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The Day After the Day After - When Easter is finally over and all the feeling that comes with it
Sam Sellers Sam Sellers

The Day After the Day After - When Easter is finally over and all the feeling that comes with it

For people navigating religious trauma, Easter rarely arrives or leaves neutrally. This blog explores the different ways survivors move through the weekend, whether that's performing, retreating, or simply going through the motions, and the layered grief that can follow. It names the complexity of the aftermath not as something to fix or rush through, but as something worth acknowledging. A gentle reminder that recovery isn't linear, and that the cost of significant religious holidays doesn't reflect how far you've come.

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When Easter Becomes Heavy — Caring for What Surfaces.
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When Easter Becomes Heavy — Caring for What Surfaces.

A gentle reflection on why Easter can feel heavy for those recovering from religious harm. This piece explores what tends to surface during the season and offers compassionate ways to care for yourself as you navigate it. A grounding guide to understanding your responses and reclaiming agency during a loaded time of year.

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When Safety Was Found in Being Right, Busy, and Nice
Elise Heerde Elise Heerde

When Safety Was Found in Being Right, Busy, and Nice

Many survivors of high-control religious environments learned to find safety in being right, being busy, and being nice - not as personality traits, but as survival strategies shaped by conditional belonging. Recovery often involves gently unlearning these patterns and rediscovering safety in autonomy, authenticity, and inherent worth.

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What Queer-Affirming Support Actually Is
Sam Sellers Sam Sellers

What Queer-Affirming Support Actually Is

Queer-affirming support goes beyond words, it’s an active practice that believes, validates, and protects queer people in all areas of life. For those navigating faith communities, cultural expectations, or religious trauma, real support recognises harm, centres autonomy, and creates safe spaces. This blog explores what queer-affirming support looks like in practice and offers reflections and action steps for practitioners, allies, and community leaders who want to show up consistently and meaningfully.

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The Support We Need When We Deconstruct Faith and How to Find It
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The Support We Need When We Deconstruct Faith and How to Find It

Deconstructing faith after high-control religion is more than questioning beliefs and it often involves grief, identity shifts, nervous system overwhelm, and loss of community. This blog explores the kinds of emotional, therapeutic, community, and practical support that can help people navigate religious trauma and faith deconstruction safely and at their own pace.

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